Monday, November 10, 2008

The Nanny Diaries Continued

Last night the woman I had interviewed earlier in the week (found on came over so Husband could meet her. We all put the kids to bed together and then Husband and I went to dinner (at Catch - a nice restaurant in Winchester that just started having Sunday hours). This gave Husband a chance to interact with her and see her with the kids.

Before she came over we came up with our proposal (assuming Husband would like her). We researched to confirm that we have to pay overtime for any non-holiday/sick time over 40 hours a week. I was impressed how easy it was to find that information. Husband calculated the rate assuming 48 hour work week, the tax rate we'd owe since she wants to be paid and taxed which we want too. There was an interesting article recently on The Wall Street Journal about the nanny tax. We are offering 2 weeks vacation and 8 paid holidays. The cost is astronomical but since most of our children's waking hours are with this woman it is worth it. And scarily enough it is a fraction of what Baby Nurse charged.

Husband liked Nanny and so after dinner we offered her the job and gave her a summary of our proposed terms. She already told me that we were her favorite family that she's interviewed at so far (she's been on about half a dozen interviews). Husband liked that she is motivated to improve her education, is taken with the kids, likes to sing and talk to them and is very focused on them. Nanny also is eager for the 1 year commitment which puts my mind at ease. It was actually much easier to find someone than I thought it would be - but I think we were really lucky with my finding a profile of a candidate I liked and her matching that impression. I did try to interview someone else on Sunday but she never showed up.

I'm still saddened by the fact that we chose to have children knowing that the bulk of the time we'd see them is on the weekend. The Wall Street Journal Juggle posters often vilify parents for doing so. I know that Nanny will let me be as involved as I can be (when I'm doing my "deal-off/work from home" time) and will give me detailed downloads about the kids. With a 6:30 pm/7:00 pm bedtime though I'm hardly going to see them during the week when I'm on an active deal except the morning for an hour or so.

I'm partway through Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth and I'll provide a detailed review when I'm done but my parenting instincts definitely match his advice which is reassuring.


LauraC said...

Re: seeing them mostly on the weekend. I've found it's not the quantity of time I spend with my kids but the quality of time. We outsource a lot of things (cleaning, lawn, etc) so that we focus 100% of our time with the kids on the kids.

Glad you found someone you like as a nanny. Our preschool/day care is expensive but worth every penny to ensure they are at a place where I know they are loved and cared for the way I want them to be.

Stacey said...

I'm jealous you are going the nanny route but with the cost and the fact that DH works from home, it wouldn't work out for us. We need to step up our day care search. If anyone knows of good ones in South Charlotte, let me know!

Krissy said...

You are going to have to give your nanny the link to HDYDI so she can really keep up with her "education" of caring for twins!

Gretchen said...

Congrats on finding Nanny. I know that must be a big relief!

ABS said...

Hoorah!! That's great. It's such a hugely important decision, you must be so relieved to have it done!

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