Monday, February 23, 2009

W is for Work

This is my last week at home.  This morning I lay in bed (thanks to a 5:30 am wake up from the tykes) thinking about all the things I'd miss.  I'm going to be home until close to their first nap time (leaving for work at 9 am) so I'm happy I get to play and put them down for naps most mornings unless I have early calls. 

Things I'll Miss:

1.  Not checking my blackberry. 
2.  Eating breakfast, lunch and dinner when I want from my own fridge/cabinets.
3.  Play dates. 
4.  Snuggling Ned before putting him in his crib for naps. Watching him snuggle with his monkey blankie as he falls asleep. 
5.  Trying to convince Penny to roll and not just hang out all the time on her side. 
6.  Watching Penny in the Jumparoo.  Watching Penny chomp on Ellie's elephant trunk. 
7.  Ned's gurgle-giggles and the way he keeps a pouch of formula in his mouth after meals (the better to drool with). 
8.  Giggles. Squeals.  Knowing exactly what they are doing every minute of every day. 
9.  Eating dinner with my Husband.  Being able to have a glass (or two) of wine. 
10.  Watching TV. 
11.  Having time to do some chores. 
12.  Not having to shower, blow dry my hair or put on makeup. 
13.  Not cramming a million chores/errands into a Saturday. 
14.  These tykes - 

5 comments:

brittae@yahoo.com said...

It's hard. I went back to work after 12 weeks home with each of my two kids. It was much harder going back to work after having my first child.
But it does get easier. At first, you'll want to run out all the time and see them. But it will get easier to put in a full day. And compartmentalize. And you may find you're more efficient at work than you once were.
There are also a lot of upsides to working, which I'm sure you can imagine. And I think I really do spend more quality time with my kids when I'm with them since I'm often away from them.
I hope you'll figure out a way to have dinner with your husband so you can (most importantly) enjoy a glass of wine and (later) have dinner as a foursome. Family dinners are hectic and hard for us to get on the table, but it is worth it.

Goddess in Progress said...

Good luck with the transition! I'm glad you'll at least get some time with them in the morning. I'm sure it will be rough at first, but it'll get better.

Neve said...

Having just come back to the Big Firm a month ago, I can't help but comment on each point. Now I don't mean to make it out to be the best set up in the whole world. It's not! But it's my new normal, and so I have to see the positives in order to be happy with life, which I am right now. Looking forward to having you back, Mommy, Esq.!

1. Not checking my blackberry. True, true. However, I do find myself checking it less just because I now have an amazing, wonderful reason to not check it as much while at home (don't tell my husband I wrote that), and I literally forget to check it as often as before Neve.

2. Eating breakfast, lunch and dinner when I want from my own fridge/cabinets. I bring my lunch now. It's amazing and I get to snack all day at my desk, just like I did when I was home. Cheap, too!

3. Play dates. We'll do them on the weekends :) They'll be less often, but we'll still make them happen.

4. Snuggling Ned before putting him in his crib for naps. Watching him snuggle with his monkey blankie as he falls asleep. Awe, so cute. Ned will snuggle on the weekends with you :) And maybe you can snuggle before Nap #1 and then head out the door. There is something to say about our flexibility and being able to arrive to the office pretty late in the morning.

5. Trying to convince Penny to roll and not just hang out all the time on her side. I'm still a little bummed at the idea that Neve's "firsts" will likely be at daycare and I won't see them, but then I realize (1) a first is a first and it's wonderful no matter where it is, and (2) when I do get to see it, it is too a first!


6. Watching Penny in the Jumparoo. Watching Penny chomp on Ellie's elephant trunk. That's what weekends are for!

7. Ned's gurgle-giggles and the way he keeps a pouch of formula in his mouth after meals (the better to drool with). Plenty of time for this amusing observation in the morning and on weekends :)

8. Giggles. Squeals. Knowing exactly what they are doing every minute of every day. Ahhh, yes, but it's part of having them grow up and become independent little people, no? That's what I tell myself at least. The earlier we start the easier it is to not become a helicopter mom :)

9. Eating dinner with my Husband. Being able to have a glass (or two) of wine. I wrote the same thing in my blog. There will be slow days at work when you'll fit this in. Then they become treasures that you will not take for granted :)

10. Watching TV. DVR baby!

11. Having time to do some chores. Definitely tough. Our house is messier.

12. Not having to shower, blow dry my hair or put on makeup. It actually feels good! I got my hair chopped on purpose (you'll see next week) just so that I HAD to do it every day and play the part of a lawyer at the Big Firm.

13. Not cramming a million chores/errands into a Saturday. This sucks. No way to sugar coat that one.

14. These tykes - Think of it as quality and not quantity. They are still your amazing, beautiful kids and they will love you always whether you are home all day with them or work outside the home :)

Nancy said...

I feel for you. You'll definitely find a new "norm" though, and you'll forget what the old one felt like :)

brittae@yahoo.com said...

Re: Number 13 - cramming chores into Saturdays. I have to say, now that our oldest is two and we have our new baby, my husband (also a lawyer) and I have decided to hire some additional help. Our kids go to daycare, but we're going to hire a college kid to do some grocery shopping and start dinners a couple times a week for us. One of our "lawyer/lawyer with 2 kids" family friend does this and they love it.