Monday, April 13, 2009

It's Time To Stop Hiding Our Shadows

I have a confession to make: I don't take the tykes anywhere. Apart from daily walks (unless raining) our kids have only been out of the house to the doctors in the last few months. The occasional playdate has been at our house since "my kids nap so well at home and after all we have this playroom filled with toys and I promise I'll have yummy food."

On Saturday Husband and I were going to take the kids to Whole Paycheck. But it was raining. And it would be crowded. And the kids seem happy enough where they are.

When I was a temporary SAHM we went out every few days - playdates, Isis class, breastfeeding group. Sure I never ran errands with my kids but I didn't have to - the nanny was here once or twice a week and what better excuse for me to have some alone time?

It seems so much less necessary to go out and about with the kids when we only have them to ourselves for 2 days. Sometimes my parents drop by. Sometimes I sleep in one day and I don't even get dressed until they go down for afternoon naps. It's less boring when you are only a SAHM for 2 days a week to watch your kids steal toys back and forth for an hour. You don't want to miss out on the comfort of the routine and you want to see how your kids are moving past their current rituals and on to new ones.

It is time for the Esqs to come out of hibernation. To figure out how to have activities at non-nap times. I do love how well my kids nap but that's more than 4 hrs a day that are taken up napping; and the whole eating process: the bottles and the "solid" foods and now trying some table foods - don't get me started on that time suck. In an attempt to thumb my nose at the cold weather that refuses to leave I have signed the tykes and Mom and Dad up for an infant swim class - 8 am on Saturdays starting the first Saturday of May. Now I need to figure out what the kids are supposed to wear... And crap, I need to see if I fit into a bathing suit. Shudder.

12 comments:

ABS said...

Good for you! I'm sure it will be a blast.

LauraC said...

Love the confession! I wonder how many other twin parents can admit the same. I swear the first year the boys were in Target more than any other place except home or day care.

Goddess in Progress said...

Have fun at swimming! I got some cute swimsuits at Target, and if your pool location requires "rubber pants," see if they sell them. I know my Y does.

Helen said...

I'm glad- I think even if you don't have to, it's important to expose the tykes to being out, and running errands, and being socialized in places like stores. And maybe, you'll even have fun!

Carrie said...

I must confess, we are the same way often (and it would probably be even more often if I always got my way!). I am naturally a homebody and I just prefer the routines at home. Let us know how swimming goes!

K @ ourboxofrain said...

Fun! We keep talking about signing up for swimming but haven't done it yet. We did, however, get Harry a swimsuit for the summer -- he has a trunks-style suit that we got at Carter's (in Watertown). When we went to Mexico, he wore a swim diaper from DiaperLab in Somerville.

Taylor at Household Management 101 said...

Just discovered your blog. Sounds like you have your hands full with the kids. I am an attorney myself with three kids of my own, 7-1. Keep up the good work!

T. said...

Swim lessons will be so fun!! That's so great. I am happy to here that winter hibernation is over - come to Newton!!

T. said...

Oh my God, what an embarrassing typo. Yikes.

twinoverload said...

Your twins are beautiful! And they nap for 4 hours a day? What's your secret? Mine don't sleep for more than 20 minutes at a time about 3 times a day. I look forward to reading about how swim class goes...we're considering the same.

JRowe said...

The duchess eagerly awaits swim lessons with the tykes! I left you a vm regarding the swim diaper situation. Best of all, we don't have to wear swimsuits since it is the little pool! PS: We enjoy benefitting from your kind hospitality!

Monica Marino said...

Remember that at the swim class, you can (and should/MUST) bring your stroller right with you into the locker room and then onto the pool deck. It is completely impossible to wrangle even one slippery baby while you try to shower. Trying to manage two slidy little seals would result in dropping out of the class. Bring the stroller, sit them in it (wet!) while you get dry and dressed, and then get them organized one at a time. If you can bring Husband along (and therefore two strollers) even better. I must remind you that a pool locker room, as dear as it is to my heart, is no place for babies and therefore extremely stressful for Mummies.