Friday, August 28, 2009

The Grinch Who Stole Their Birthday

I'm going to tell you a badly kept secret - we didn't buy our kids any birthday presents. Evite, backyard BBQ (which will move indoors thanks to Danny), no presents. I think that about sums up our approach to their birthday.

Grandparents (and great grandparents) were exempt from the rule because, well, they are grandparents and you can't stop them anyway.

My mom and dad sent the kids a climber at Nanny April's suggestions. The top part is a bit small for him to turn around easily but they both like it. Ned even helped his dad put it together. All their "baby" toys are now gone from the playroom - jumparoo, bouncy chairs, exersaucer. It certaintly heralded the era of mobility that has descended on the Esqs.


11 comments:

Helen said...

and godmother/aunties- we won't be denied present giving either:)

LauraC said...

Jon and I discuss this every birthday! We always get them 1-2 items and that's it bc they don't need much. Same thing at the holidays.

Goddess in Progress said...

We're the same way. We haven't gotten them birthday or holiday presents, either. Which isn't to say, obviously, that we never get them anything. It's just that the last two years they've been oblivious enough to not notice, to the point where it would almost seem silly to get them something. And they're quite adequately spoiled by extended family. :-)

Nicole S. said...

I have been waiting to buy "big things" for their birthday that I would buy anyway. That way I can just say its a birthday gift. And I might order some personalized quilts from Goddess. They seem to have nothing that is truly their own...

Friends of ours had a 1st year bday party for their daughter and invited EVERYONE they knew, gifts welcome. I thought it was a bit much but, oh well, everyone does these things differently.

Neve said...

OMG, we just bought that for Neve on Tuesday (second hand...I love a bargain). It's sitting in our living room making the room look very, very small!

The Goverczyks said...

We did the same thing for the boys' first birthday; no presents from us and a backyard bbq. We didn't even open presents at the party because we thought it would be too chaotic. People were so disappointed that this year we did do the present opening and it was just a little chaotic! This year we converted their cribs to beds, more of a symbolic present from us. We figure we will have plenty of years to buy them presents once they are old enough to start asking for them.

Donna said...

Great idea actually. We had a b-day party for DS1 and told everyone to just donate to a children's charity. If they wanted to bring something - bring a matchbox car for DS1 to open. Really does help on the toy clutter (which has taken over our house). BTW I LOVE your photo on the top of your blog of the twins from your vacation - just beautiful!

Susan D. said...

We didn't buy any real presents for our girls either. And, we still have unopened toys from their bday, too. Let's just say the grandparents, aunts, and uncles spoiled them rotten. Don't feel bad - our girls & I'm sure yours still had a blast!

Krissy said...

Oh man, am I in the minority! I love birthdays! I love presents! I love everything about birthdays! In fact, in my family, we have birthday MONTHS!

For F and J's first b-day, we got them a choo-choo wagon, and this year we got them ride-a-long seats for our bikes, and bike helmets. We have had so much fun with both gifts, and hope to continue a family/active theme with b-day gifts.

I also make a list of toys, clothing, accessories (sunglasses, dress-up clothes, etc.), books, dvd's/cd's, etc that I can suggest if someone asks what the kids might need or want. It helps so much if I can tell an auntie that Faith needs pj's in size X and that Jonathan needs a pair of sandles. I think people like to buy kids gifts that they will actually use or need.

That said, I hope you guys have a WONDERFUL celebration BBQ of year one with the Esq tikes! Well done parents!

reanbean said...

We bought a few gifts for their first birthday, but ended up saving them for later since they got so many things from family members. We did open presents at the party (as Grammy expected it would be done), and I really, really wish we hadn't. It was all just too overwhelming.

Sorry Danny is forcing you indoors. Hope you have a great party!

jerseygirl77 said...

Look at Ned climbing- amazing! We are the same with gifts... Everyone else buys so much for the kids that we just feel like it would be overkill. So we usually only get one "big" present or a couple small ones. Of course my kids are already little greed monsters. Every time my parents visit, it's "Nonna, what did you bring me???" sigh.