Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Sort of Here

Just a quick update - I'm here. Sort of. 15 hour work days, sometimes 20-24 hour days at work for a client I frankly could now care less about. Without a single day off (including weekends) to recuperate. No modifications by the people I work with to accommodate a 6+ month pregnancy (and I hate playing that card - this would be inhumane even if I weren't pregnant).

After a few days of cranky behavior we confirmed that Ned has a double ear infection (naturally developed 2-3 days after his 18 month checkup) and he's now got a terrible cough. He also won't eat (teething?) and just screams when upset - in the highchair, in the playroom, in the bathtub. Many nights Husband has had to put him to bed at 6 pm without him eating or a bath. Normal toddler behavior? No time to think about it. Thank God he's still sleeping through the night although he's restless (and snores cutely). I know this because the only time I've really seen them is when I sneak in to their room before I go to bed for my few hours of sleep. I hope Nanny April isn't being burnt out by him.

Husband has been in charge every night and most weekends for at least 3 (or is it 4?) weeks. Nanny April has been coming at 7:30 am so I can get to work early. That gives me about 20 mins to see the kids per day.

I know, this isn't healthy, protect myself, blah, blah. If you had maternity leave coming up in a few months for 18 weeks paid you'd put up with it to. Just one foot in front of the other and the occasional nap on my office floor. Was this easier before kids? I seem to think it was but can't remember for sure.

Back to work.

P.S. My department is strapped so I haven't been able to implement the "deal on/deal off" I talked about before Ned and Penny were born.

P.P.S. The department head said something about me being "hardcore" yesterday. Um, what? Reminds me of what happened when I was working crazy hours while 7 months pregnant with the twins. The truth of the matter is that I just have an insane work ethic that won't let me just ignore/push off.

8 comments:

ElizabethEK said...

Hang in there. I get it. I understand.

Real question: are you going to be able to take your leave? Really take it? As in, no working for 18 weeks?

Thinking about you. Good luck.

Shelley said...

Wow. Be careful and hang in there. You're doing a great job. Just don't push yourself too far.

I hope Ned is feeling better soon!

Mommy, Esq. said...

Yes, my Big Firm is really good about respecting maternity leave - I'm actually taking 5+ months but only 18 weeks are paid. No one bothers you while on leave unless they can't find something.

ABS said...

Just remember - we're not management; the group being strapped is not our fault or problem.

Susan said...

LOL - I agree with ABS. I'm glad you getting 5 months off. The thought of going back to that schedule with 3 would make me physically ill ;) Everyone is different and you have the personality and staminia to do it - not sure I could but wish you the best. (and a good hubby to boot)

Drew said...

Hang in there, 18 weeks is a big, big, draw to keep you going. But, I have NO IDEA how you do it! Clearly, I gave up without even a try. Your kiddos will thank you for it, and soon you will have 5 months to be with them ALL! Keep a day countdown...

Leigh said...

Reading about all the work you're doing makes me feel so tired........

But I do get that you're counting down the days to your 5 months :)

I thought long maternity leave was unheard of in the US - nice to see you're getting some of it.

Jungletwins said...

Well woot to the 5 months coming up- that will rock :) In the meantime, when stressed, eat copious amounts of cookies- that was my strategy when pregnant and overwhelmed.

P.S. I particularly recommend these cookies: http://smittenkitchen.com/2007/12/peanut-butter-cookies/

Husband should bake them for you. Or Ned and Penny should.