Thursday, April 29, 2010
Anyway, I'm so done with working. I was off for a few weeks before I had Ned and Penny but I had gestational diabetes, feetloaves and was carrying twins. I don't think my OB is going to give me early medical leave this time with the absence of the foregoing.
But it is so different being pregnant with toddlers - Ned and Penny want to be picked up when they see me and are jealous of each other. I'm having a hard time getting up and down off the ground as I play with them. There is no lounging in the morning in bed - I have to be up for the kids.
I called a friend of mine who is a stay-at-home and suggested she get some help part time for the month leading up to the birth of her second. If I'm this tired with a full time nanny I can just imagine how she'll feel!
But my brain is also functioning at a much slower pace, making being at work tough too. And not much prep is getting done for Spyder since I'm either working at night (to make up for my slowness during the day) or can't seem to do more than push buttons to work my DVR. How did you other moms cope with this?
Monday, April 26, 2010
What amazed me the most during my 9 day-straight interaction with the kids is that they have quite a bit of personality. Some facets are charming, others challenging but put them all together and we have 2 additional PEOPLE running around the house.
Penny: I think she may be OCD - she likes to clean everything. Give the girl a rag and she'll clean the floor, her toothbrush, your shirt, etc. She does let herself get messy while eating so I'm not too worried about it - it's just weird since there is no way she inherited this from Husband or me or our respective families. Speaking of eating, man, that girl can put it away! She's also getting better with utensils. Penny is very much a people person - would prefer to play with you than by herself. She gives lovely hugs. Penny does refuse to wear barrettes or hair things even when given a choice (she'll take both and then refuse to wear either). Stubborn, completely stubborn - and she doesn't really forget when she's mad - we had some 45+ min shrieking bouts when she didn't get her way. Her communication skills are improving every day but when she nods her head yes (basically using her whole body) it is still my favorite. She can focus on projects for longer periods of time than Ned can (stickers are a big favorite) but she is more easily bored by reading (unless she can be asked questions of items to point to) and/or TV time.
Ned: He cries "Mama" all the time but he doesn't really mean me, he just means that he doesn't like that you won't give him (or let him do) x, y or z. If we just dropped him in a field somewhere to run around he'd be happy until he fell over from exhaustion. I love how he snuggles and is so fascinated while watching The Backyardigans. His language has also progressed - "juice" being a new favorite word (joining "TV" and "blue" - what kind of parents are we?!) as well "shoes" so he can go outside. He always asks for "Dada" over the monitor in the morning and nothing makes him happier than seeing dogs at the park. He is more easily frustrated than Penny but he doesn't hold a grudge for as long. Now that he has the run of the house and more outdoor time he hasn't been "reading" as much. He is more willing to do his own thing than she is.
It was a wonderful week getting to know the kids but you'll have to excuse me while I go get a snack and sit in quiet at my desk at work. :)
Monday, April 19, 2010
- Aquarium (we are members)
- Children's museum (never been)
- Local parks
- Playdates (including one Tuesday morning with Nicole and her adorable twins)
- Backyard fun - sandbox, playhouse and water table
- Arts & Crafts (I assume 10 mins per project attention span) - stickers, playdough, cooking
- Determining every menu (usually I just have to deal with breakfast) for what the kids will eat, plus what we'll eat
- Cleaning up the eating
- Practicing patience - it can be hard to have unlimited patience after a full day with two toddlers who are easily upset lately
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
It's fun to see the kids' language skills developing. Penny has a very cute way of saying "uh-ohhhhh" when anything unexpected happens. She also says "shoe" very well and clearly knows what it means.
But Ned has my current favorite word. Partially because it's more abstract, and partially because of the way he uses it. He'll point to various things and say "blue." (Well, it's "booo," really.) Most of the time it's something that's actually blue, and those times his tone is pretty happy. But other times he'll point to something that's certainly not blue, like the red "eraser" trackpoint thingy nub on my notebook from work. He still says "boooo," but with an almost panicked tone. You can tell he knows it's not really blue, he just doesn't know the right word and wants you to tell him.
That's my interpretation, anyway.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
The tests did show that Penny "holds back" liquid in her mouth, it takes 2 swallows to clear and that she does not "continuously swallow" (think of how you gulp water when you are thirst - she takes "breaks"). Apparently this is very common with reflux kids - a protective mechanism they develop. It does not cause aspiration. It was pretty cool watching the liquid go down on the X-ray monitor.
Yesterday Penny spent the day at my work daycare and we had an appointment with her pulmonologist in the afternoon to discuss the test results. After Penny took everything out of my wallet twice and went over to waive at each person individually in the waiting room, we got to see her pulmonologist.
He kept remarking how big she was and how grown up (she weighed in at 21 lbs and is 30.5 inches tall for the record). Originally he was going to suggest we go forward with the CT and lung biopsy to confirm what sort of interstial lung disease she might have (some are treatable with steroids and a few other options) - and to get it all done fast-track before I had the baby. Instead he decided we should see at home if she is any better without the O2. She seemed "so great" developmentally and size-wise that he was wondering if maybe she's grown out of it.
We were instructed to record her desaturations in a journal and check occasionally to see what her level was running at on the monitor. If the desaturations were frequent she'd move straight through to the CT and the lung biopsy and if it was ambiguous we'd come in for an overnight sleep study.
We put the monitor in the hallway so it wouldn't disturb either kid's sleep (it is set to alarm at 88%). It NEVER WENT OFF. In fact, we checked periodically until 2:00 am and she was running at 97% the whole time.
Of course we thought this before (God, was that really last NOVEMBER?) but she went back on the O2 a couple of weeks later. I spoke with her pulmonologist this morning and he was very excited. He would have been happy with mid-90s and thinks 97% is "very reassuring". He wants us to keep the O2 etc on hand and use the monitor again if she gets a cold but otherwise Penny doesn't have to wear the monitor.
We have kicked the failure to thrive (she eats more than Ned!), her reflux is under control (but she still clearly needs her meds), and the O2 saga may be over. Next up is her "allergies" - I don't think that will be done before Spyder arrives but it is nice to see how far Penny has come in the last year.
P.S. Isn't it weird how we call doctors "Dr. So and So" even though they could be our age (and younger)? Her pulmonologist is great and I could actually see us being friends except it is odd with me calling him "Dr." all the time, after all, he calls me by my first name.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Now sometimes I come home and Husband says "Nanny April [and I] decided to start doing something differently today" - eliminating the bedtime bottle, switching Penny to sippy cups from bottles, eliminating the morning nap and other small transitions. Each are of course necessary but it is hard when I am not the one who planned for it, thought about how it would work, did a dry run, consulted my fellow moms, etc.
Last night they decided to have the kids sleep out of their sleep sacks because we've been unable to locate larger cotton sleep sacks in stores. Instead they were covered in blankets. I wasn't prepared for the transition. I hadn't consulted the MOTs! Is a loose blanket best or should we be "tucking them in" now? Won't their feet get cold?
I often assumed that my stay-at-home mom friends just decide themselves when transitions will occur sometimes get burned when they realize they can't power through a transition.
Part of this is linked to my Type A personality and I need to let it go but this is one part of the working mom psyche that I struggle the most with.
How do you handle transitions in your home?
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
|Two Lovely Wishes (with a hidden Third)|
P.S. Happy Birthday to Allie and Stacey, my awesome sisters.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
As Jefferson (or Franklin? whatever...) said, apologies for the long video, as I have not had time to edit it down to a short one.