Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Laboring Under Delusions

Whenever I tell people I'm going on maternity leave soon or that I'm due soon someone has a story about a lawyer at my Big Firm. Here is what I've heard so far:

- The partner who drove herself to the hospital while on a conference call to deliver her baby.
- The senior associate who came back early from leave because there was an interesting project coming up.
- The associate who decided to distract herself from labor by coming into the office the day she was in labor and billed 8 hours - for each of her two kids [by the way, her ex-husband is a partner and told me this story himself]
- The client who took conference calls relating to financing commitment papers while waiting for her epidural.
- The associate who closed a deal on a Friday and went into labor on Saturday.

I wish I could say these are myths but I actually know most of the women. Mommy, Esq's approach is to work hard but I managed to get my doctor to write a medical leave form for me so technically I am now on leave. I'm not quite done with work but I've got my out-of-office message on my email and I'm only working a few hours a day.

Time to put the Mommy back into Mommy, Esq.

Let me know if you have other superwomen stories - it won't make me feel guilty in the slightest while I sit here and gestate in front of the TV.

13 comments:

Marci said...

The partner I worked for at my prior firm took the bar with a friend who went into labor the second day of the NYS exam, labored all day while taking the exam, and barely made it to the hospital. True story.

jerseygirl77 said...

You might recall that I went into work on the day Josh was born. Because I was in some serious denial about being in labor. :-) I didn't even make it to noon before I had to go home though... Driving myself... Having contractions... On an interstate highway. Yup, that was a totally safe idea.

Spyder, Spyder, time to come out and play!

Sweet Coalminer said...

my boss and other floor-mates kept telling me about the former judge who would not continue a trial because one of the attorneys went into labor and she did the whole trial - while in labor. The judge was a woman. With children. I know both of them and it is one of the reasons I decided not to practice anymore! I could NOT have argued a trial during labor. Although I did think that being pregnant gave me an edge in court!

Julia said...

I traveled 400km and worked for a week at 34w with twins, interpreting a medical conference by myself, 10 hours a day. I could hardly breathe and the sound guy looked at me fearing I would pop at any minute, hahaha. "Are you OK?" was the question I heard more often that week. Babies were born at 39w.

A. said...

My undergrad advisor was in the middle of her graduate school (Ph.D.) exams when she went into labor. She gave birth and went back the next day to finish the exam.

She also had a sign in her office that said "Sleep is for the weak." It's possible she may have contributed a smidge to my conclusion that the academic research life leaves zero time for work-life balance...

J and J Mama said...

I worked at a Newspaper while in college and one of the reporters got a hot tip. She was already not feeling great that morning but chose to drive 2 hours away to get the story. While she was in this little podunk town she realized that the reason she felt like crap was because she was in labor and gave birth in the town's only doctor office since there was no way she could make it to a hospital at that point.

Tara said...

I live under the motto that I work to live, not live to work. Way to go for taking some time for the more important things in your life. Your twins will soon have to share you, relish in them until them.

Rebecca M. said...

Um... I so wasn't a super woman when I was near the end... I left work three weeks before I was due... I think pregnancy just effects women differently and I was down for the count for most of my pregnancy - puking every day, high bp, swollen everything etc. DO NOT feel guilty about leaving work BEFORE you go into labor.

Roz said...

Oh my goodness!!! I am shocked! I must say, I haven't heard of any stories like that at my Big Firm!!! Although my boss was sending e-mails from her BB 4 hours after giving birth!!! I went on leave 2 weeks before going into labour with the twins and I TOTALLY switched off from anything work related and law!!!

ABS said...

Then there's the one about the mid-level associate who went to part-time to get pregnant and went on leave 2 1/2 weeks before her scheduled c-section ;-)

brittae@yahoo.com said...

With my first, I took off the Friday before I ended up having the baby (on Saturday). I was in an arbitration that Mon - Thursday, but without much of a role, so no biggie. With my second, I was working on a presentation for the trial team on Sunday (while in labor) and finally told them "I am done!" With my third, I flew to Nevada the Friday before I had a c-section on Monday.

Lisa said...

Jeff's firm had similar stories, but they were more often about the Dad's coming into work the day their children were born or while they were in labor. A sure sign we needed a change before we ever had kids!

Andi Roane-Wiley said...

My high risk OB to me to go to the hospital to be monitored for a few weeks due to complications with my identical twins. By time I got to the hospital (20 minutes tops), the decision had been made that the boys were going to be delivered at 3 pm that day! So from 10 am until I was finally taken in the room for my c-section, I worked to clear up all of my open items at work. No one at work realized that I was going to be delivering that day - they were still under the impression that I was going to be in the hospital for a few weeks. I was not in labor but all the nurses were giving me an evil eye each time my phone rang or my blackberry signalled a message.