Thursday, January 13, 2011

Snow Day Zen

Only two and a half weeks left before I go back to work and I finally found my groove. I've found patience I was afraid was gone - doling out timeouts without stress and not overly worrying about the kids and their development.

I am surprisingly calm when Husband's travel plans change a million times - yes, going to France on Thursday, no, make that to Spain on Friday, wait, Delaware on Monday, Europe is canceled. It's always last minute but instead of stressing about what it is doing for my schedule I just figure I can handle it or can ask Nanny April to stay late. I used to run around as soon as he announced his travel schedule working out whether my mom could come or if I could rush home from work. Now I figure we'll just have to pay April to stay and Husband can make arrangements since it is his travel schedule. I did my first solo bedtime in months on Monday and it was fine - and soon that will be Husband's lot when I am back at work.

I like to clean up the kids' mess so it feels like we have some adult space but I don't care that I manage to get the dining room and kid dishes done and playroom picked up while Husband fusses with the mail/bills. If he cooks dinner I am happy to clean up. I plan some meals for us and do the grocery shopping and I find I don't hate grocery shopping anymore. I didn't nag him about shoveling and he laughed when I told him I considered my nap on the Snow Day an accomplishment (it was!).

Nanny April's constant chattering and repetitive storytelling aren't as annoying as they were a few weeks ago. She does so much for the kids and I really appreciate it. And she's put up with me being home for 7 months.

During the Snow Day, I let Penny drag every book out of the playroom into the family room. And then made her (calmly) put them back. Not sure why she left the Obama book (gift from Nanny April).

I don't plan for activities (apart from 2 weekly classes we are signed up for). If I don't need to be anywhere or doing anything I can just let the constant organization and scheduling go. I'm going to try hard to do that on weekends when I am back at work.

When the kids hated being out in the snow on our Snow Day,

I just brought the snow indoors.

Even Josephine joined in.

So what if I let my kids wear PJs outdoors (why get something else wet/dirty) and Penny's hair looked like a mess all day. They ate a great lunch, brushed their teeth and napped. In fact before a nap they gave me a nice present:

Twenty minutes of no fighting or crying or fussing. Twenty minutes in which I could pick up lunch and plan naptime attack.

I know it is the best for my family and me that I return to work and that the next Snow Day will be a disaster with both Husband and me trying to work while taking care of 3 kids. But on this Snow Day the kids and I had a lovely day.


Marcia (123 blog) said...

Love your ZEN state - enjoy it.

I, on the other hand, am in full-on clear out the clutter/ organise everything mode.

Amazing all the snow - I'm in capris and a t-shirt, eating salad for supper :)

Nicole S. said...

Wow - you do sound Zen. Maternity leave suits you :) I will have to take some lessons from you.

I have to see you guys (esp. the new and improved Ned!) before you go back. And I have little gifts for the big kids, too.

Anonymous said...

Must say I admire Penny's taste in books.