Friday, July 1, 2011

Relinquishing My Role

I am a nagger. I'm a typical woman who just does whatever is on her list because it is easier to get it over with right away and Husband is a typical man who waits until it absolutely has to get done. It used to drive me really crazy but now I just do the things that I consider priorities (signing kids up for activities, keeping the "family" calendar, etc.) and let Husband get to items when he can (mowing the lawn, cleaning out the garage, etc.). He does the "important" things he needs to right away (setting up a bill to be paid, payroll for our nanny, taxes).

I've evolved away from being a (bigger) nagger also because now I usually have a junior associate or midlevel associate on transactions who just "takes care" of things for me. My involvement is more high level and I expect the associate to be sweating the small stuff while I swoop in to check on things from time to time. It is the natural evolution of "up and out" structure but sometimes I miss being the deal manager - it was one of my strengths.

We have a few hard to get to lights in the house and when they burn out Husband takes his time to replace them. I don't blame him, it's a process bringing out the ladder, having the right bulb and honestly, I don't want to do it so why would he?

Enter our toddlers. The following exchange has happened more than a few times.

Ned: Dad, when are you going to fix the the light?
Penny: The light is broken!
Husband: I'll fix it soon.
Ned: But, Dad, the light is broken! When are you going to fix it?
Husband (grounds out): This weekend.

Hmm...I can think of a few items to point out to Ned and let him keep the pressure on Husband.